I’m married to a problem gambler. what do I do?
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I just recently found out that my husband who used to have a gambling problem is back at it. Today is my birthday we had plans that he cancelled becuase he is at a poker tournament praying he does well becuase he said if he doesn’t that we are screwed. we have two little kids who have been moved around way too much. I just don’t know what to do anymore …
February 7th, 2009 at 8:05 pm
hide the money ,quick.
February 10th, 2009 at 5:55 pm
I am sorry to say that it is a problem that he needs to get help.
It’s like being and alcoholic or tobacco smoker is an addiction.
Good Luck to you and your husband it’s hard but if you love him and he is worth the try be there for him.
February 13th, 2009 at 8:35 am
Pull up stacks and find a new home. Leave him at the table.
February 14th, 2009 at 11:22 am
This is an addiction like any other and needs professional help to overcome…..all addictions are driven by fear but difficult to be treated without expert help.
Find a help line that deals with gambling addiction in your local phonebook or online directories, and ask them how to handle your situation….its not something that you are going to fix by talking to him… he will deny he has a problem and anything you ask him to look at would be attacked defensively…. anyone who would deny your birthday for gambling has a serious problem and would need expert guidance and input to be able to fix it..
February 15th, 2009 at 5:16 pm
He has an addiction, just like an alcoholic or a drug addict. Is this really the way you want to live? Do you want to never have anything and be constantly in debt? Is this really the kind of life you want for your children?
You have to stop thinking about what you want and what you and your children need. It sounds like he has lost the money to pay the bills with. Stay with him and as his wife he will put you in such debt that even when you finally wake up and divorce him, it will take you a life time to pay off these debts and your credit will be destroy. The longer you wait to divorce him, the bigger the debt will be. You can’t help him, this is his problem that he has made your problem.
February 16th, 2009 at 9:55 pm
I would join Al-Anon and do whatever it takes to make my children feel secure.
Moving around is not a stable situation for them or for you.
February 19th, 2009 at 7:34 pm
LEAVE HIM!! Don’t be stupid enough to let him put you and your kids in the poor house. You need to protect your children, get rid of him!!
February 20th, 2009 at 2:08 pm
Be serious when you tell him this: This problem you have HAS to stop;or our relationship is over,I cannot go on with you in my life with this major gambling problem you have…See what he says.
February 24th, 2009 at 1:02 am
Sorry to hear about your situation but if this has been going on for some time know and he is not willing to make the changes to make your life and family work then you need to do what is right for you and your children. And you said that today is your birthday and he is out gambling the money away and all he tells you is to pray. I’m sure that you already know what YOU need to do. And if you re not going to leave the situation and your husband for yourself….then you need to do it for your children. All of this moving around has a effect on them and I’m sure you already know that
February 26th, 2009 at 9:43 pm
your enabling him to play , and not putting your foot down. He has to want to stop gambling and you have to leave with the kids or you and the kids will be homeless I know I see it all the time in Reno , people gambling away there whole pay checks while there baby’s are hungry and there getting evicted out of there apt. . There is nothing you can do except get away from him and take the kids. He knows what he is doing to the family and he dosn’t care because he is to far into his addiction.